Essential conversational English phrases for making friends abroad
Travelling abroad comes with lots of new experiences. It also puts you around lots of new people who you may want to share stories with or simply get to know better.
While it can be scary to approach people and speak in another language, we’ve put together some key questions and phrases to get a conversation flowing.
Practise these conversational English expressions, and you’ll be making friends in no time.
1. Breaking the ice
The first step in any casual interaction is known as ‘breaking the ice’, which simply means that you’re getting over any awkwardness. English conversation starters are perfect to break the ice and can be used when you’re waiting in a queue for an attraction, looking for a seat on public transport or hanging around in your hotel.
Try saying the questions below and get familiar with ‘small talk’ (simple conversations to ease into social situations) with new people you meet.
- Where are you from?
- Is it your first time here?
- Is this seat taken?
- How long have you been here/How long are you staying for?
Example conversation
You: Wow, this is a long queue, isn’t it?
Other traveller: Yeah! I didn’t expect it to be this busy.
You: Me neither. Where are you from?
Other traveller: Argentina. What about you?
You: I’m from Germany. Is it your first time here?
Other traveller: Yep!
You: Nice! It’s my first time too.
2. Creating a connection
Once you’ve started a conversation, it’s a good idea to find something you have in common with the person you’re speaking to. This connection allows you to continue to converse in English and get to know the person more.
Asking open-ended questions allows people to tell you about themselves. You can then find shared interests from the information they give and keep the conversation going. Remember to respond with enthusiasm and ask follow-up questions but don’t exaggerate with your language – people can sense if you’re not being sincere.
Good phrases to know at this stage include:
- Where have you visited/been/eaten that you’d recommend?
- I went to [place] yesterday – have you been?
- I’m planning to visit [attraction] tomorrow – any tips?
- That sounds amazing!
Example conversation
You: How long are you travelling for?
Other traveller: Two weeks, but I’m here for four days and then going on to somewhere else.
You: That sounds amazing! I went to [place] yesterday, have you been?
Other traveller: Not yet – we’re going tomorrow, but we went to [place]. It was great.
You: I’m planning to go there tomorrow! Any tips?
3. Making plans
If you’re enjoying the conversation and you think the other person is too, you could invite them to do something together. It doesn’t need to be a formal invitation, more of a casual suggestion. If they say ‘no’ or don’t give a definite ‘yes’, that’s OK. The most important thing is to be friendly and open, and to not push plans onto anyone.
- Have you heard about … (the walking tour/sightseeing bus)? It starts at 10pm and I’m going.
- I want to try that famous coffee shop/restaurant/cafe if you fancy it?
- I’m going to the market/castle/shopping centre this afternoon – you’re welcome to join!
- We’re going out tonight if you want to come?
Example conversation
You: Have you heard about that famous coffee shop?
Other traveller: Yes! I want to go there.
You: I’m going there later, if you fancy it.
Other traveller: Sounds great! What time are you going?
You: After this, if you’re free.
Other traveller: Perfect.
4. Staying in touch
After spending time with someone you’ve met abroad, you might want to stay in contact with them after your trip. To be clear about wanting to chat more, you could say the following phrases to someone – or they might say them to you first!
- It was great hanging out, let’s stay in touch.
- If you’re ever in (city/country), let me know!
- Do you have Instagram?
- Let’s swap numbers.
Example conversation
You: It was great hanging out – let’s stay in touch.
Other traveller: Definitely, I’m glad we met!
You: Do you have Instagram or Whatsapp?
Other traveller: Yeah, let me add you.
You: If you’re ever in Germany, let me know!
Other traveller: Will do. Safe travels!
Things to remember about travel English phrases
Keep it natural
Try not to use overly complicated words or expressions when you’re speaking to someone new. They will want to know that they’re meeting a human, not a robot, so use simple, casual-sounding words and sentences.
Don’t worry if the other person doesn’t respond exactly how you expect them to. The most important thing is that you put your conversational English into practice in spontaneous, real-world situations and that you grow your confidence.
Want to learn some ways to make your English sound more natural? Check out this video.
Start small
You don’t have to say a lot. A simple comment while waiting for something or a friendly ‘hello’ can lead to longer conversations. Even just talking about the weather can be a springboard into a new friendship.
Listen actively
Making friends isn’t just about speaking, it’s also about listening. Demonstrate that you’re interested in what the other person is saying by replying with ‘really?’ or ‘that’s so true’. Your body language matters too – always face the person, and smile or nod to show that you’re really paying attention.
Be open, not perfect
You don’t need perfect grammar to make new friends! Focus on connection, not correction. If you make mistakes try not to dwell on it – keep talking and gently remind yourself that it’s said a different way next time. Whoever you’re speaking to is bound to understand (and probably not notice), especially when they’re more interested in getting to know you!
How to start a conversation in English
So, how do you start a conversation in English? Like you do in any language! With curiosity, kindness and confidence!
These are just some of the conversational English phrases you can use to make friends abroad. Experiment with preparing your own questions and statements to get people chatting and learn about you while you’re travelling.
Take a deep breath and take the first step to striking up conversation.
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